Nicky Allen - pictured with her partner of two years, Patrick Johnson - has been married thee times but has suffered from a decline in her sex drive for the past 29 years Studies in Britain, Europe and America, involving thousands of women of all ages, indicate that anything between 30 and 50 per cent of women have been hit by prolonged periods of little or no sex drive. It seems counterintuitive, but letting your partner have some time to herself can help her recharge. She's grown a little bored with you. Then ask yourself the following question: Get a medical checkup To eliminate physiological causes for your lack of desire, a trip to your family physician or gynecologist may be in order. I wish I had a dollar for every time I've heard a person say, "I really wasn't in the mood at all at first, but once we got into it, I enjoyed myself. Explore and experiment until you know exactly what turns you on. If you are one of those people, you need to do something to change the way you feel about your body. This sort of response is based on hurt. Increasing research is focusing on testosterone levels in women, for example. And then there's the menopause. I just didn't feel much excitement or sexual responsiveness, and my boyfriend wasn't really interested in understanding what the problem was. Nicci Talbot, meanwhile, claims herbal treatments helped her. Hold that biblical image in your mind for a moment. If so, offer a "hands-on" demonstration. Your marriage won't last that long.