And no, it doesn't make you a perv to own your sexuality. I recommend always having extra natural organic lube on hand for anal in particular. It can be an overwhelming concept to think about, and can result in a potentially uncomfortable and messy situation that only comes from dabbling in territories previously uncharted. A little lube, some coaching and a lot of talking about it later, I was no longer an anal sex virgin. When it comes time for penetration during anal sex, start out slow and avoid trying to rush it in order to get it over with. You can even try warming up by using something smaller to insert, like your finger or a toy. Rinsing out the anal area can help decrease the amount of fecal matter left inside after bowel movements. Associate yourself with the anus hole by poking your finger around it, and gently rubbing and massaging the area to get a better idea of what feels good to you. External stimulation at first. Yes, you might feel really naughty. In "I Slipped," Mindy's boyfriend Danny tries the surprise approach and she is, of course, shocked. Missionary is also a great position for anal. In light of this seriously damaging view, we decided to give you a few tips on how you actually can enjoy anal sex. First and foremost, invest time in the foreplay. I recommend beginning with the woman sitting on top of the man, this gives her control over how much cock she wants inside her and how slow or fast she wants it. Be sure to stock up on lube.