Believe it or not, there are over 20 million marriages in the United States just like yours. So when you discuss these tender issues with your mate, it is important to follow my empathic process. Start with one-on-one conversations, but if you have trouble communicating, or don't see any progress, seek the help of a counselor. What am I doing wrong? Finally, husbands and lovers who have problems with intimacy often put space and distance between them and you when they find themselves in a committed relationship, which can make them feel vulnerable. Many men believe their status as a lover is determined by their ability to get, and maintain, a firm erection. And you can't overlook the real possibility that your mate is bored of having sex with you because he is really interested in having sex with someone else For instance, if you are getting less sleep because you and your mate are experiencing emotional difficulties or you are the parents of a new baby. You are not alone! Bruised and hurt, you withdraw and the situation now becomes distant and lonely. Unfortunately, women can misinterpret these problems as attraction problems and become critical or reactive, which just complicates the dynamic further. If you choose divorce, you should continue with a professional counselor, to help you heal these marital wounds and not repeat this mistake again. Paying attention to your appearance, breath and body odor can express to your partner that he counts and you care. If a man is feeling suffocated in the relationship, he may experience a loss of attraction as a way to create some space and avoid the closeness that sex brings. Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. He may have developed a sexual disorder that could be related to a traumatic sexual event in his past that is now surfacing through the intimacy of marriage or relationship.