In the early days of a new relationship at least, the desire for frequent sex ought to be a primal force. Boys can internalize the idea that being dependent makes them less male. I'd also suggest simply experimenting -- with other activities, and if you want to keep trying with intercourse, with different positions with intercourse. This can include pain during sex due to menopausal vulvo-vaginal atrophy resulting from a lack of hormones as well as a burning pain syndrome of the genitals. Stop worrying, you and your spouse deserve this moment of pleasure. A reticent, kind, male patient who struggled with low libido finally opened up about three aspects of his libido: In your marriage, talk dirty with your spouse, get kinky, hold nothing back; for even God expects, desires and demands you two to enjoy sex Intercourse doesn't stimulate that area, if you like and want that sort of stimulus, as many men enjoy, and find creates a richer orgasm than they feel with stimulus just to the penis alone. It is normal for women to lose some of their sexual drive as they get older, and much depends on whether or not she considers this an issue. Be creative in bed, your sexlife depends on it Evil shouldn't steal what God invented. Second, be insistent about him getting help. Thus many sexually inactive people, especially virgins, are probably missing from sexual behaviour surveys.