Men think more about sex. For other women, this discomfort may come from medical conditions which may make it difficult to fully engage in and enjoy sex. Indeed, in Western eyes, sexual desire itself appears to be essentially masculine in nature. The more committed men are in the relationship -- in other words, the more invested a man is in his female partner's pleasure -- the narrower the orgasm gap becomes. Personality and Social Psychology Review, In a survey of studies comparing male and female sex drives, Roy Baumeister, a social psychologist at Florida State University, found that men reported more spontaneous sexual arousal and had more frequent and varied fantasies. Most women take between 10 to twenty minutes to reach orgasm usually through direct stimulation of the clitoris rather than intercourse. Try things your partner likes and ask them to try things you like. BUT… Can we believe the results of most of the studies that report this huge sex drive? But women also appear to be heavily influenced by social and cultural factors as well. Women take a less direct route to sexual satisfaction. Male sex studies focus on the physical. It is more about the anticipation, how you get there; it is the longing that is the fuel for desire," Perel says. Experts say men score higher in libido, while women's sex drive is more "fluid. They just view the role of sex differently. With women, though, the search for a drug to boost sex drive has proved more elusive. Some have theorized it's related to the greater power of men in society, or differing sexual expectations of men when compared to women.