And in some women, lower testosterone levels can mean a lack of energy and a weaker sex drive. I cannot wait, because I am so charged up sexually. Once a woman is past menopause and no longer concerned about pregnancy, many couples find it easier to relax and look forward to lovemaking. Through my website DivorcedOver But what if you asked a divorced woman over 50? A man may need more physical stimulation to become aroused, and his erection may not be quite as firm as when he was younger—but sex is no less pleasurable. But what if you asked an over 50 woman the same thing? Without that pressure, it could just be about enjoying time with someone, and being in the moment. Their enthusiasm came from being with men who were caring, who communicated, and who treated them respectfully. Just as important, sex may be more emotionally fulfilling because now it is driven less by hormones and more by the desire to share yourself with someone who loves you. Aging itself is not a cause of erectile dysfunction. For so many of the women, sex, especially during the latter stages of their marriages, was a complete negative. Actually, physical causes—such as circulation problems, prostate disorders, and side effects associated with prescription medications—account for 85 percent of erectile difficulties. Hours of intimate contact with about a dozen divorced women past However, diminishing hormone levels do precipitate some changes. But there was no cuddling, no pillow talk. For unhappily married women beyond 50, their word is probably something along the lines of No, Nope, Nah-ah, or Fugetaboutit.