The Williams Institute study did find that in the 19 states that granted some kind of legal recognition to gay couples between and , the rate for same-sex splits was actually slightly lower for same-sex couples than heterosexuals. Suki Dhanda for the Guardian This disillusionment can set in surprisingly quickly. Even after a relationship matures, money issues tend to stick around: In my study, almost 6 out of every 10 divorced singles at least 57per cent who are now in healthy new relationships don't share living expenses or bank accounts with their partner. Alison, for instance, found that her husband would go out with his friends at the weekend while she stayed at home, preparing lessons and doing the housework. But in , the number of divorces leaped to , more than three-quarters of which 87 were lesbian couples. Don may be ready for a week of golf, work, bar nights, and a frustrating night of writing a dating profile-this instead of lingering on what just happened. Sorry men of which I am one but women move forward more quickly after divorce. My study found that divorced spouses who blame themselves or their ex, rather than the situation or the relationship, have more anxiety, depression, sleep disorders, and overall health problems. Women are encouraged to go on an emotional journey of self-care after a divorce, while men are expected to need help learning how to cook and parent on their own. So why are ladies so hasty to say yes to the vest? That may explain why of those age 45 or older, a third of men remarry and just a quarter of women do. As a society we tend to be skeptical whenever a couple's ages are so far apart but I'm not sure why; there are certainly enough relationships in which the couples are about the same age that don't last, either. But I thought you either got married or you split up and it was over.