And they didn't want to? There is something about being covered in spit up and attending to the every need of another human being that makes one feel distinctly gender neutral. So far the mailboxes in my neighborhood have escaped unscathed, so Option B must be working. Fellas, your lady is always fighting a battle with other women, herself, and society about physical appearance, and she needs you, as her man, to affirm how beautiful you think she is. How about you also retire those old sweats and try putting on some nice clothes occasionally and give her some good ole eye candy?! Most of my days are spent playing with dolls, wiping baby food off of my clothes, changing diapers, wiping snot off of my clothes, going to the park, and wiping what-the-heavens-is-that off of my clothes. What do you do with an inability to satisfy yourself, in a complete, overall way? Leave the dishes in the sink and the floors unswept. I don't feel sexy. She wants to see you healthy and without that beer belly. Guys, instead of getting defensive about the things she needs to help increase her sex drive, just embrace them. And for a while I did feel fat. So, men are needs-driven creatures, not sex-driven per se. Painting, taking up photography, cooking, dancing and yoga are all great ways to continue to explore and use your nearly emerging sexual energy. How do we manage our hunger? This insatiable need for more is always strongest in the beginning of ending sensual deep sleep.