Some men like it, though. I just don't know what else to say. I'm curious as to why you could have several serious talks about her spending too much money but you can't have a serious talk about her having sex with other men. Many of the men expressed that through their wife's open sexuality, the couple was actively and consciously rejecting social pressures to suppress female sexuality, assert monogamy and patriarchal power. Again, that doesn't mean threats or bluffs but calmly let her know what YOUR decision is. In the film Crazy, Stupid, Love, Steve Carrell's character Cal Weaver learns that his wife Emily wants a divorce and has had an affair with a man in her office. It is possible that one part of her motivation was a desire for affirmation that she is still sexually attractive, after years of being very unhappy about her appearance. I did see a number of men who reported that due to physical complaints, they weren't able to be as vigorous in bed as they and their wives would like. But I suppose for years and years women remained at home waiting for unfaithful men to return home and no one thought anything of it. They are the same sort of lies that alcoholics tell themselves and their friends. Could not subscribe, try again laterInvalid Email Apparently, 'cuckolding' is increasing in popularity. Yes, it does really bug me that I'm financing her behaviour, but this is not a solution. I also speculate that there is a degree of vicarious experience here - by being a part of the experience, the husband gets to vicariously experience what it's like to have that greater sexual capacity, and identifies in a strong manner with his wife and the essence of female sexuality in a way that most men never experience. Agiesmom, I guess you must be familiar with my area to mention Codonas!